I could write a lot of things about Brock Turner. I could tell you what an asshole he is for sexually assaulting an unconscious woman, but you already know that. What you may not know is that, aside from evading a suitable sentence for a heinous rape crime, he is getting released early today for “good behavior.” He spent 90 days of a six-month sentence in the Santa Clara County Jail for an offense that should have put him behind bars a lot longer. So basically, instead of getting punished; he’s getting praised for destroying the life of an innocent girl. Way to protect a victim, California.
This whole “it’s okay to rape someone if she’s drunk” thing needs to end, and parents need to hold their sons accountable instead of justifying their behavior with drastic pleadings. There is a first time for everything, but rape? There is nothing naive about that. My guess is that he’s done this before, and will no doubt do it again. But even if it were a first-time offense, why would that matter? Why would a person be awarded for only doing it once?
Sexual assault on any level is maddening. The devastation it causes to the victim is intense and permanent. They cannot *blink* it away or pretend it never happened because the darkness is a now part of them; traveling deep into their souls and burning the ability to trust.
There are some who continue to blame victims of abuse. For whatever reason, they assume these girls are either lying or deserving of what they got, but I disagree. I don’t believe anyone, man or woman, should ever be violated in a way that humiliates and scars them for life. And, I don’t agree that a short skirt or too much alcohol gives anyone the right to harm me, but what do I know? I’m just a 49-year-old woman who was abused as a child before I ever knew what alcohol was.
In the past few years, I have met more (rape) victims than I care to discuss. Some, like me, were too young to do anything about it, but others were no different from this girl in California. They were just girls being girls; hoping to meet a nice guy. The ironic thing about our culture is the image it has shaped for women. We are expected to look and dress a certain way if we ever want to meet Mr. Right, yet held responsible whenever his friend turns out to be a rapist. Who knew?
I am supporting my friend Audrey Hayworth at Sassmouth in a nationwide challenge to bring attention to the outrage that IS rape culture. Please join us today—the day of Brock Turner’s release—by sharing a related post, Facebook status or tweet using #TwentyMinutesOfAction #CanHeEatSteakNow.